Feeling guilty means you’re doing something wrong? Here’s why I strongly disagree.

Do you ever feel this way at work? You finish a project, and instead of feeling excited or proud like you did when you first started your career, you think, "Okay, one more project done, just check the box."  Then you drive home exhausted.  You don’t feel inspired to share your work with others like you used to, and you avoid most work-related conversations.

You wish you could find a magic door  or a pause button  just to stop and step out of your life for a while. The life you’ve worked so hard for now feels suffocating.  You want something different. You want something that feels more you.

Then comes the guilt...

• You think about how much your parents sacrificed to give you opportunities—a good education, a stable life. How can you possibly not feel grateful for the life you have?

• You think about your boss and colleagues. You have a great team, a decent salary, and a “dream” job by most people’s standards.  You feel guilty for not pushing yourself harder to keep up the good work, even though doing so leaves you feeling stressed and frustrated.

• You confide in friends or your partner, and they remind you how lucky you are. They admire your achievements, your stability.  Their admiration only deepens your guilt. “Am I selfish for wanting more when I already have so much?”

  
  

The Hidden Pain Points of Denying Yourself

Why do other people, or society, get to set the standard for what your life should look like in the first place?  If they truly care about your happiness, why does it matter if your life fits their expectations?

It’s true—at first, it might have been what you wanted. But as we grow, we evolve.  And the more we evolve, the more we crave fulfillment, joy, and a deeper sense of connection.  So, why should your life or job stay the same when you’ve outgrown it?

Here’s the truth: the guilt you feel isn’t because you’re selfish or ungrateful.  It’s because for so long, you’ve been denying your own needs, dreams, and feelings in order to fit into a version of success that others created for you.  The desire for more isn’t selfish—it’s self-love.  It’s your soul trying to reconnect with what makes you feel alive, free, and you.

It’s time to stop feeling guilty for wanting more. You’re not selfish. You’re simply waking up to your truth.

The Hidden Pain Points of Denying Yourself

What society doesn’t tell you is this: the guilt you feel isn’t because you’re selfish or ungrateful. It’s because you’ve spent so long denying your needs, dreams, and feelings in order to fit into the version of success that others wanted for you.

Other ways this guilt might show up:

1.     Numbing Yourself:

• You try to distract yourself with overwork, binge-watching, or scrolling through social media, but the emptiness lingers.

2.     Resentment:

• You love your family and friends, but you start feeling resentful because you’ve been meeting their expectations at the expense of your own desires.

3.     Self-Doubt:

• You question yourself constantly: “Why can’t I just be happy? Is something wrong with me?”

4.     Physical and Emotional Burnout:

• The guilt weighs you down, manifesting as chronic fatigue, tension headaches, or feelings of being “stuck” in a loop.

  
  

Why This Shift Is Necessary (Not Selfish):

• Wanting more for yourself isn’t selfish—it’s the opposite. When you suppress your needs, you disconnect from who you are. And when you’re disconnected, you’re not able to show up fully for the people you love or the world around you.

• Reclaiming your dreams and feelings is an act of self-respect. It allows you to live authentically, with joy and purpose. When you’re fulfilled, you inspire others to follow their own paths too.

  
  

A Breakthrough Perspective

One of my clients told me:"I realized I wasn’t ungrateful for my job or my family—I was ungrateful to myself for ignoring my dreams. I’d been living for everyone else, and it wasn’t sustainable anymore."

This shift allowed them to release the guilt, redefine success on their terms, and finally take steps toward a life that felt meaningful and exciting.

Your Next Step

If you’ve been feeling this guilt, know this: it’s not wrong to want more. It’s a sign that you’re ready to reconnect with your true self.

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